Helping those with anxiety, stress, and trauma feel more grounded, calm, and confident
IFS therapy in California and Hawaii
You’ve been holding it all in for too long
Anxiety is often the nervous system’s way of trying to keep you safe. In our modern world—with its constant demands, disconnection, and pressures—it’s no surprise that so many of us feel on high alert. When you’ve also lived through past trauma—especially early attachment wounds or relationships where safety was uncertain—that alarm system can become even more sensitive, reacting strongly even when you’re not in danger.
You’ve managed it for a long time, but lately it’s becoming too loud, too unsettling, and making it harder to fully enjoy your life.
Your days are filled with…
Constant worry, racing thoughts, or difficulty relaxing—even when nothing “big” is happening.
Trouble sleeping, feeling on edge, or being easily startled.
Struggles with trust, feeling disconnected in relationships, or fearing abandonment or rejection.
Carrying guilt, shame, or the sense that you’re “too much” or “not enough.”
IFS Therapy can help settle your stress, anxiety, and affects of trauma
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IFS is a body-based, somatic therapy that works differently from traditional talk therapy. It’s more like a practice of active meditation: we notice the places in the body where anxiety, worry, or other “parts” show up as thoughts, feelings, or sensations, and we gently listen to what those signals are trying to tell us. When these parts are met with compassion and curiosity—what we call Self—rather than pushed away, they begin to settle and can discover new, healthier ways to support you.
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In IFS therapy, we start by slowing down and noticing your thoughts, feelings, and body sensations—what we call “parts.” With my guidance, you’ll practice turning toward these parts with curiosity, sometimes imagining a conversation with them or noticing how they show up in your body. As we listen and respond with care, these parts begin to feel understood and safe, which allows them to soften—giving you more calm, clarity, and choice in your daily life.
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IFS helps reduce anxiety by addressing the underlying parts of the nervous system that hold worry, hypervigilance, or self-criticism. Instead of suppressing these responses, IFS therapy creates space to observe and engage them with curiosity and compassion, activating the brain’s capacity for change. Over time, this process decreases reactivity and promotes more flexible, regulated ways of responding to stress.
At the end of the day…
I want you to know that you have an inner resource of calm, clarity, and confidence to help settle the worry of the past and of today.
Your anxiety doesn’t need to be pushed away, you just need a new relationship with it
Is IFS the right fit for you?
As an IFS therapist, I have witnessed the impact of this therapy model help others who have struggled with their worries and fears feel more calm and less on edge for the long term
IFS might be a good fit if you’ve tried pushing away anxiety, stress, or painful feelings but find they keep coming back. Instead of battling your inner world, IFS helps you understand and care for the different “parts” of you that hold fear, worry, or self-criticism. This approach can be especially supportive if you want a therapy that feels both compassionate and effective—helping you build a steadier relationship with yourself and lasting relief from the inside out.
Unlike “top-down” or “talk therapy” approaches IFS invites you to go inward—listening to the parts of you that carry anxiety, self-criticism, or old wounds. It’s a practice of slowing down, getting curious, and meeting yourself with compassion. Over time, this depthful work doesn’t just ease symptoms—it builds lasting inner trust and resilience that supports you long after therapy.
What you’ll gain
With IFS therapy,
you can…
Improve your ability to regulate emotions and feel more grounded, even in stressful moments.
Work on the root causes of anxiety, stress, or relational patterns that keep you stuck.
Learn how to listen to your body’s signals and use them as guides toward calm and clarity.
No longer feel like you’re carrying everything on your own—you’ll have support and space to truly be seen.
Gain coping skills to respond to life’s challenges with resilience, steadiness, and compassion for yourself.
Get in touch
Your journey toward calm can begin today.
Reach out and let’s take the first step together.
Click this link to choose a day and time for a free, confidential consultation.
FAQs
Frequently asked questions
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IFS is less about analyzing or problem-solving and more about creating an inner relationship with your thoughts, feelings, and body sensations—what we call “parts.” Instead of pushing anxiety or stress away, you learn to listen to these parts with compassion. This body-based, experiential approach often leads to deeper and longer-lasting change than surface-level coping strategies alone.
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In a session, we slow down and notice what’s happening inside—whether it’s a racing thought, a tightness in your body, or a critical inner voice. With my guidance, you’ll get curious about these experiences and explore what they might be protecting or holding. Over time, this process helps those anxious or stressed parts relax, making more room for calm, clarity, and choice.
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IFS helps by addressing the root causes of anxiety and stress, rather than just managing symptoms. We explore how past experiences, trauma, or relationship wounds may have shaped your nervous system’s responses. By building compassion for the parts of you that carry these burdens, your system learns new ways to feel safe—reducing reactivity and allowing you to move through life with more ease.
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Every person’s process is unique, but many clients notice a shift after just a few sessions—such as feeling more calm, connected, or less reactive. Longer-term work allows us to address deeper patterns and past experiences that continue to fuel anxiety or stress. Think of IFS as a practice: the more you engage, the more lasting the change becomes.
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Yes—many people come to IFS after trying traditional talk therapy, CBT, or mindfulness-based approaches. What makes IFS different is that we’re not just talking about your anxiety or stress—we’re directly engaging with the parts of you that carry it. This experiential process often creates breakthroughs for people who felt stuck or plateaued in other therapies.